The Filipino Stereotypes
Love Karaoke
83 % of the Filipino women and 72 % of the Filipino men dream about becoming a famous singer… well, i just made these statistics up, but the actual numbers are probably not so far away from those fake statistics. Filipinos just love singing, not only in the shower, but also on the streets (I’ve seen it happen countless times), in the living room, alone or with friends or of course in the extended and so frequently happening Karaoke sessions.
Charice Pempengco, a Filipina singer who rose to popularity through YouTube
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Can get friendly with each other so quickly
So noisy when in a group
Filipino Accent
Love life, like to go out
The Filipino Names
Most of the family names in Philippines come from Spanish origins since Spain colonized Philippines for almost 500 years; yet, that is not the interesting part. The interesting part is having names such as Girly, Honey, Boy, Uno, Junior, Blue, Princess, Queeny, Sweet, Lovely, Sweet-Rose, Virgie, Baby… Basically, if you wanna understand what kind of names some Filipinos have, you just need to imagine some lazy parents who call their child the first thing that comes to their mind.
Just right after a born is baby, I would imagine the parents having a conversation as such:
Mother: so what should we call our daughter?
Father: I donno… anything, like I can care less..
Mother: you know she looks so girly..
Father: ok, what the hell, let us call her girly.
or like that…
Doctor, looks at the mother: What would you like to call your son?
Mother: Where is my ****ing husband? I bet he is screwing my slutty neighbor again.
Doctor: I have other patients waiting for me, What do you wanna call your son?
Mother, rolls her eyes, looks out the window, sees a blue sky: Just call him Blue.
The he/she his/her equivalence
Many Filipino’s make so many mistakes with he/she… and a common conversation with my Filipino friends would go like that.
Friend: I was talking to Anna today and she said that his husband is cheating on her.
Me: What? really? How did she find out?
Friend: He came back early to find his husband in bed with another girl.
:), it could get more confusing than this and it is usually random and somehow funny. If the story is longer than the story above, it can get more difficult to get the story straight with all the he/she him/her mistakes. According to my friends, the root cause of the he/she mistakes is the lack of distinction between male/female in the Tagalog language.
The Offensive Stereotype (avoid if you are a sensitive reader)
Do Filipinos eat dogs? The answer is that 99% of the Filipinos do not, but what about the other 1 % or even less. Many Filipino find this stereotype very offensive (sorry) and would probably deny this. However, after discussing this “Stereotype” with my one of my close Filipino friends, i got to know the truth. This stereotype has originated from the fact that many homeless and drunk individuals in extremely poor areas do hunt and eat dogs as means of survival. No one would deny that this is a brutal and sickening act, but isn’t killing chicken fish and cows as brutal too? Well… as human beings, we justify all our cruelty by calling it “survival”… and hey, guess what, familiar cruelty sounds more acceptable than the shocking unfamiliar cruelty which is unknown to us… wow.. this has just turned too serious… back to our topic… Filipinos 🙂
Filipino men stereotypes
- Filipino men are usually very unfaithful; many might argue that all men from all nationalities do cheat, but the rate at which I encounter stories about broken Filipino families stories is just ridiculous.
- A great number of Filipino men suffer from gambling and drinking problems.
- An alarmingly huge number of Filipino men are simply unfit to be good fathers or good husbands. A typically Filipino house is financed by the women… women are the bread earners whereas men are usually immersed in their destructive hobbies of drugs, alcoholism, gambling and adultery.
Filipina women stereotypes
Looks and Outer Appearance
Typical Sweet and Cute looking Filipinas
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- Short, the average height of a Filipina girl is 1.517 m (4 ft 11.5 in) according to Wikipedia
- Most Filipina girls have beautiful Long black shiny hair… the healthy kind of hair every girl wishes for.
- Flat and tiny nose which almost every Filipina girl i met is insecure about.
- Tiny ass, which is usually another source of insecurity to many girls.
- You will catch most Filipina girls so often wearing short shorts, flipflops and a tee shirt, which to be honest looks cute and a little bit sexy ;).
- Another common not so feminine form is having a narrow waist and broader shoulder.
Character and Personality
- Caring and loving, Filipina girls are very dedicated, loving and selfless in relationships. A Filipina gf or wife would usually do whatever it takes to make her husband / BF happy. In short, Filipinas are usually fit wives, GFs or mothers.
- On the flip side of the coin, you will always meet “the gold digger” Filipina GF. The GF who wants an iPhone or the GF who likes to go out to all the expensive stores and restaurant and doesn’t even once try to reach for her wallet. You will also meet the GF who has financial problems and is asking for your help. (Living in Dubai, a city with multinational culture, all expatriates including Filipinos, travel and work here to support their family in their home country. Yet, some “gold digger GFs” do go the extra mile by sending 90% of their salary to their family while living off almost free with the foreign “none Filipino BF”).
- Filipina girls are easy.
- There is a surprisingly huge number of single Filipina Moms. The Filipino culture seems to be very accepting and forgiving so you often find a Mom having 2 or 3 children, each from a different father and none of the fathers is or has been her husband.
Love Rice
Friendly and sweet
It is just true, they are so happy and friendly and sweet and they honestly remind me of the hobbits in the Lord of the Rings :D.
Short and tiny and Ironically, they do love basketball
That is all for now; Living in a multicultural environment for the last 6 years, meeting and observing hundreds of Filipinos, I think the above description is pretty accurate. However, please let me know if you believe some of the points I mentioned are inaccurate or if you think that I missed any of the famous Filipino Stereotypes.
I hope you enjoyed reading this article, Please leave a comment 🙂
I kinda like how spot on the stereotypes are, especially the part of unfaithful husband and single mothers. This is usually the drama I see here in the Philippines and I think that’s what you get if you mix a not so loyal man and a faithful woman(usual case in Filipino setting). But that thing is not exclusive for the females. Filipino men being victims of gold diggers here and becoming single dads are not so uncommon here too. Nice blog…
Thanks for your comment and compliment, :), I am planning to write more stereotypes (many other nationalities on my “to write list” ), i Just love doing this.
I appreciate this as well. I have been talking to many Filipino women online, got caught up in a gold differ’s trap, even though she skyped with me and for over a year was online waiting for my without a fault, each day. In the end I even bought a $70 engagement ring(until I could present her with a real diamonds in person) and she was cool with it. Then she claimed she lost it and eventually blocked me. She got less than $100 from me, but in the end some other rich foreigner was able to visit her and then she cut me off completely. This helped a lot! Thank you for the time you take to write these. Bookmarking your page now.
Well actually philipina females definition of beauty is being white so naturally they have a traction to white expats
You are absolutely right.
In-addition to that, Filipinas believe that a mixed marriage (let us say Filipina Mom + Spanish Dad) would produce very beautiful children. I must say that I do agree with them 🙂
I couldn’t argue with the useless cheating males. A lot of them are roaming around my country.but a new trend of cheating females is on the rise too.
But hey there are alot of new generation Filipinos who dont have the guy’s accent in the video.lol.
I don’t speak that way.hahaha
Being a single mom is tolerated by the society maybe but then not in the business society. Businesses see it as immoral. If one gets pregnant without getting married it is a ground for termination. But funny thing is it is not in the labor code.
Lol yeah true the standard of beauty is white with a high bridged nose. Evident with the rise of interracial marriages of Caucasian and Filipina marriages
I call it “genetic improvement” I’m a member of the club. Haha
But since I planned for my genetic improvement program I began to love my tan skin too. 😉
Western men love the tan skin, if I’m not mistaken
I still believe that Filipinas are not easy. They still believe of courtship. Well i used They for I’m not a believer of courtship.. lol am I easy? Of course not . If I like you what’s the point of taking it too long,? But if I don’t feel the same way, then boy move on,there are plenty of fishes in the sea.
hahaha
Anyway the article has a lot of truth in it. I’m just glad it was written in a good way.
And yes I am a Filipina.Godbless!
“In-addition to that, Filipinas believe that a mixed marriage (let us say Filipina Mom + Spanish Dad) would produce very beautiful children.” (MantisShrimp)
Several Geneticists have stated that as being true
Well, it’s like that in several other countries is Asia and Europe. Used to symbolize that you didn’t do outside work.
Oh my god. That was not a very nice move for a girl. If I were her, i’ll be honest with you and be faithful. I don’t know why other girls can’t see the good guys and end up with the bad guys and leave the good guy because she get what she wants. I’m a Filipina, that is so sad to hear that some of us nor many were doing those things. But I wish u meet the girl for u.
Hi some great observations but I think you missed a biggie. Are Filipinos honest, I would say by my reckoning they are incapable of honesty. It took me a long time to realise that their concept of honesty comes with many riders and is adjustable based on feelings or consequences. For me as an Australian it is an absolute. Yes is yes, no is no, and it is how the word makes sense. The biggest problem it causes me is that they assume, (as I did), that their understanding of honesty is the same as everywhere so being constantly asked the same thing as if it is going to have a different outcome. For me that is by inference but all the same, calling me a liar. Which is extremely offensive in my environment.
Great idea. And you should pick some nationalities who realy demonstrate widespread behaviours, very strange to other nationalities, but if confronted with it. they would heavily deny even a trace of such. Like for example Germans confronted with somebody who does nt speak their language: They raise their voice and speak very fast. Thinking that must make the foreigner understand what they want to say. And get angry or even insulting if that does nt work. Like that can be found lots of stereotypes, also with Dutch, Peruvians and Australians
Judging from this article, the writer is a woman. Positive stereotype for women and all negative for men. This is so one sided. Just to inform you ladies, Filipino men and foreigner don’t find the majority of Filipino women sexy. And I also want to point out that most Filipino women are looking for foreigner because of their money. you can add this to your list “Filipino women are gold diggers”.
John, thanks for your comment, :), but you got your prediction wrong. I am a guy, I might be a bit bias with women, because I’ve heard the story of many Filipina women. All stories were pretty similar, a useless dad, a useless brother or a cheating and useless husband.
I will not argue about how sexy Filipina women are, this topic is very subjective. I’ve met many sexy Filipina girls, but I partially agree with you that if you were to compare the average Filipina girl with the average (lets say European or Latina girl), the non-Filipina girls would probably win the competition.
Lastly, If you meet a Filipina girl on some dating site, yes you are probably being hunted for your money and this might distort your view of the whole nation. However, to be fair, most Filipina girls outside the virtual cyber world are descent, faithful and looking for an honest mutual relationship of love.
99% of what u wrote about Filipino are correct. I work with a large number of them and i have a Filipino gf who is very caring and is not interested in my money and still wishes to spend the rest of her life with me but she is like a jackpot because many filipino are all about the money, they flirt a lot even the married onces. I guess the poverty in their country really affect there mentality about life, they see British guys as a means for them to get over poverty. One Filipino is a friend, three is a gang of rebels.
I wouldn’t say just girls are the attractive ones. I am a Filipino girl, myself. I heard someone say and I quote “I have never seen an ugly Filipino boy”. I found it funny how direct she was, but anyways.
Hi! I just want to express my thoughts about meeting a girl from dating sites. Yes, I’m a Filipina and single mom, I used the datingapp once just to find new friends and it doesn’t mean I was looking for someone whom I can ask for money or gifts. I don’t ask money even from my parents to support my kid 😉 I would say Filipina who are educated and have stable job should have an exemption to be called “gold digger”.
I think what should be included here is filipinos who would use a friend to get something like position, fame, money. Once they got everything end of friendship. I’ve experienced that many times even with relatives so I don’t trust anyone here except my own family.
There will always be Filipina exceptions (I know about a few) but in the mainstream of Filipino life, it is true that it is the men who are into drugs, gambling, womanizing and such like vices that destroys the family nucleus.
Philippines is very much a male dominion society, a cultural value absorbed through 400 years of Spanish colonialism.
I agree with you in almost everything else, but for the point that Filipina girls are easy, I would like to justify this one.
Since you have noted that most Filipino guys are unfaithful and drunkards, most Pinays have hopes that they will find a nice and stable guy who will match her care. So the moment she meets a guy who shows her this attitude, she easily gets taken away. And most of the time, she ends up being wrong yet again. Good Filipino guys are so scarce these days so you often meet a broken-hearted Filipina complaining about her husband/boyfriend/father. Sometimes, you have just to understand where she’s coming from why she’s showing a facade of an easy girl.
I know a lot of Filipino women cheaters and many more who knowingly sleep with married men.
Hi Aurora,
Unfortunately, I can’t disagree with you, because I knew few who do that as well :(.
On another related note, I do blame the unfaithful husband for 95% of the damage being done and only 5% to the mistress (be it Filipina or not). Do you agree?
I have to agree with you on that 95%.
My ex-girlfriend was half-Latina/half-Filipina and raised by her Filipino father. Her younger brother could do no wrong and she could do no right. She was constantly seeking approval and so gave them lots of money. But, as a consequence, she has come to think of anyone not family or a family friend as fair game and she is a gold-digger. I found out that she was actually secretly married to another guy while she was dating me. After we broke up, she changed her last name to his.
This hasn’t soured me on Filipinos though. I go to Filipino restaurants and to a local Filipino festival. I always have a good time and everyone is always friendly. Maybe one day I will find a Filipina to make my own.
I really really love what you’ve written in this article, thank you so much. I’m a Filipina and all of it is true. Thank u on behalf of the other Filipinas out there.
Thank you Nea for your lovely words, I can tell that they are coming from a typical sweet Filipina :).
Men in here are really a pain in the ass; most of them. My father and my uncle didn’t work as hard as my mother and aunt to have the money we needed. That’s why many of us Filipinas want to marry foreigners, but as for me I like to marry someone I love weather he’s a Filipino or a foreigner; As long as he’s responsible for me and for our children. I’m an average Filipina, tired of being like this everyday, and in order to change it I’ll have to work my ass to have a successful future …
Most pleasure and happiness in life come from our pursuit of our goals and dreams. Some of us, depending on the circumstances, might have to work harder than others. I wish you the best in finding love (with a foreigner or one of your Kabayans 🙂 ) and ofcourse I wish you a very successful career as well.
I also appreciate this…. but take note that our culture is actually LOST. There are many corrupt politicians who keeps on running even if the public knows they’ve stolen billions of pesos already.
Nice reading. I love Philippines and the Pinoys. I worked with many, I lived in Philippines as well, naturally including many friendships with Pinoys and Pinays. An important observation in Philippine society over almost fifty years: The originaly very conservative system – especialy concerning women – is rapidly dissapearing, being replaced by new chaotic fashions. 50 years ago, it was a very rare case of single mothers. It was strict order for all girls: 1. Finish school 2.learn a trade or profession acording to the social status of the family 3. Find a job 4. Get a husband 5. Have children (Divorce or even separation was IMPOSSIBLE) Historicaly women had little value. But womens liberation has reached even Philippines. And for many women or young girls its a – wrong understood – proof of womens liberation and liberty, to have a child before anything else in live. Even preferably fathered by a married man. To make sure the child is personal property of the mother and no man interfering or claiming rights on the child. I know hundreds of such cases personaly, oten with very sad results and consequences. Another very important aspect is also historicaly: The comunication of women, and the comunication of men in Philippines: Its two different worlds , causing lots of problems and conflicts. But that would be another topic to go into detail
I kinda disagree with your stereotypes on women. They have big asses – esp for 30s and above. Maybe you are referring to teens and early 20s. But when they reach 30s, most (not all) have saddlebags, ang round asses.
thanks for your comment. (Note to self: more research required on the topic 😉 )
Before hitting it so hard, read, learn and understand about the history of the Filipino race and perhaps you can understand the genetic connection.
The early settlers of the Philippines (minus the aborigines) were from Indonesia, Sabah in Central and South Philippines.
Indonesia and Sabah are Malay (though the Indonesians today will vehemently deny that they are of Malay lineage)
Take a look at Indonesian and Sabah women of 30 and above. Most of them have very broad bums.
It is the same about Italian women. Their young women are very physically attractive but lose it when they grow old.
Look at Punjabi and even Indian women. It is also the same.
As always, for all these examples, there will be some who do not follow this bum size phenomena.
I do agree about Filipino women being easy and that’s precisly the reason why a lot of Filipino men are unfaithful. They are easy preys and a lot by the way are willing mistresses. The worse part is men are blatantly unfaithful, with colleagues, relatives and friends knowing about the affair, and the cheating men couldn’t be bothered. For other races, when you encounter unfaithful husbands, they hide it. For Filipinos, for some reason, they flaunt it. As for the cheated wives, they still accept their cheating husbands with open arms. Filipino cheating husbands, despite their wives knowing, will just act as if everything is ok and dandy to their wives, as if what they are doing is totally ok and accepted in society (it is by the way, perhaps only 10% of men are faithful).
So there, Filipino men cheat because too many pretty girls available everywhere and they can get away with it.
I agree with you about the correlation between women being easy / men being unfaithful. It is however very shocking how forgiving the society in the Philippines is to infidelity. Perhaps only 10% of the Filipino men being faithful isn’t far from the truth.
Thanks for your comments.
I agree mostly except for wives universally accepting it. I have known too many women devastated and a couple who have killed themselves.
Sadly, you are probably right, many wives (universally) find themselves between two dark choices… (1- Live with a cheating husband) OR (2- get a divorce and deal with its devastating impact on their children, fear of loneliness…)
Despite many men from many nationalities being infidel to their wives, I believe that the percentage of unfaithful Filipino men greatly out-ways the percentage of unfaithful men in other regions (at least among the cultures I have been exposed to)
Um, but isn’t divorce illegal in the Philippines? Annulment takes forever, too…
not only Filipino men are cheaters!! duhh! but yes.. their tons of it in Philippines.. and i wish all of them dead! Easy girls?!! hmmmm…. depends.. if they’re sad, taken for granted and needing attention… or if someone approaches them in their lowest point of life that they needed someone to hold on to..then maybe.. but I also agree.. there’s a lot of Pinay flirts out there! So better watchout! :p
Filipinas that uses skin whitening lotion desire of being whiter complected. Mostly they believe and i believe that their skin is more attractive and appealing if they had lighter skin. And filipinos are also considered asian and a great majority of asian are white complected ex: japanese, vietnamese, korean, chinese ect. Are all light skin.
Cheating husband aint a big thing. For all of you haters. Jealous guys outhere. Filipinos can do whatever they want its not up to you to judge unless your filipino. And its a race thing. The husband is filipino the wife is filipina its among filipinos. So there is nothing you can say. If the filipino father is ok for her daughter to marry a cheathing filipino husband then basically its ok and not big deal amongs filipinos.
Yusuf, thanks for your comment. I think you misunderstood the comment of kureijikawaii
1- No one is hating on Filipinos, as a non Filipino I can tell you, most people find Filipinos sweet, friendly, fun and nice to be around.
2- The comment above is “hating” on cheating men and not Filipino men (which is fair).
3- Cheating is not Ok, even if the Filipino society is more tolerant than other societies in this area, it doesn’t change the fact that cheating can cause moral, physical (transfer of sexually transmitted diseases) and psychological damage to families. Cheating is NEVER OK.
Yusuf, you’re an idiot. Cheating is awful and its not just a Filipino issue you nitwit. I personally have a filipina friend who still cries over her exes infidelity. The fact that morons like you are so accepting of it is sickening. I hope someone punches you in the face.
Yusuf kargaci.
You sound like all male chauvinist pigs.
You are typically the kind of Filipino that obstruct the progress of the Philippines by being morally blind.
Marital unfaithfulness is not a universal virtue. Never was and never will be.
I’ve lived here for a year, and some other confirmed stereotypes I’d add include:
Lateness in everything; impatient, selfish drivers; terrible customer service (no practical assistance and items always ‘out of stock, sir’); no capacity for independent thought (following the doctrine of parents and religious leaders unquestioningly); too much salt and oil in food; the obsession with skin whitening (being conditioned to think they are not naturally beautiful); lazy men living perpetual childhoods while mom and sisters clean up after them and earn the household income (life is so easy for my girlfriend’s brothers); and the staunch, nationalist ‘Filipino Pride’ when defending their home country against criticism, even when it’s justified, while having no problem being racist against others.
It’s More Frustrating in Philippines!
It is spot-on.I just could not get it why Filipinos love Basketball.I’ll probably get the answers next lifetime.haha.
I agree entirely with your stereotypes on Filipinas especially being ideal wife’s, the men don’t
realise how good they are, try being married to a western women for 25year with all her hang-ups, and try being unfaithfully to a western women, she will divorce u and take more than half of everything u own, by the way I’m happy married to Filipina lady and have lived here 4 years
Pete
I know some Filipina girls that are still a virgin and waiting for marriage before letting their bfs kiss them or sleep with them. And they’re late 20’s and early 30’s. Maria Clara still exists.
There’s no clear cut across-the-board cookie cutter description of a filipina.Like all nationalities-there’s the good and the bad. I am happily married to one of these beautiful, caring, loyal ladies and just would emphasize the positive aspects of a filipina-at least many I personally have observed in my travels there (no, not as a sex tourist-just an avg healthy middle aged guy that enjoys the friendly spirit of the country). With that said…here’s my observations.
-they tend to hold on to superstitions and strange remedies
-they smile-a lot
-they have what I call a love handle-they love the rice, if you know what I mean
-the cell phone is an extra organ attached to them
-chatting on FB, phone-seems like all the time
-they say nothing when they are wrong
-they say a lot when they are right
-and my favorite! They are always on top! (keeping some humor here)
Watch out for the scammers (short term-as in beggars, and long term-as in green card-divorcees). Use common sense and it’s guaranteed happiness if you find a good filipina lady.
one more thing..they really love american/western guys..they will typically worship u if you’re an american no matter how u treat them…they also seems to like arabs very much..probably becoz they have jobs for them in saudia and UAE
I think it is wonderful how filipinas have such character, nobility, caring, dedication, decency, joy, enthusiasm, and did I say dedication? (Its part of the culture) Ever check the immigration statistics for many of the Asian countries? The Philippines tops the number of US applications submitted just about every year. Yeah, and I’ll tell you why… because filipinas have been known to make excellent wives for deserving men since after WWII. Oh, and out of those that marry, there is about a 20 to 30 percent divorce rate!!??. A stark difference than the horror of domestic marriages. In 2014, any man that marries an american woman has a 60% chance of the marriage ending in divorce. Now that is pathetic. You can thank Feminism, Liberalism, and Progressivism…they are all the same. By a comparison, a slutty filipina would still be worth her weight in gold, than an american female…. proof is definitely in the pudding…lol So I am taking my chances on the virtuous, dedicated, pinay that believes in the traditional relationship that has a higher probability of surviving than betting on the average american women (regardless of color) that will have slut-ted herself out before she gets out of high school, has no concept of commitment and a long term relationship, but will have more faith and dedication to the american court system after ripping the heart out of her american man.. Thank God there are Oh so many sexy and wholesome filipinas in this world to give men that see the light and have discovered that, true treasure!!
I laughed so hard while reading this article, I didn’t find this article offensive. This article really gave an accurate description of us, and the way you define the Filipina (the sweet and the loving Filipina) it is so accurate it remind me of my GF. Well I hope you make more blogs about how funny or amazing Philippines is. And I hope you invite your foreign friends to visit my country, besides, its easy to get a Philippines tourist visa. hehehe, Thanks for this article it really made my day.
I don’t think Philippines needs my help because its beauty speaks for it :). Philippines is certainly one of the most beautiful countries in the world, it is an ideal destination for tourists because it is relatively cheap and Filipino people are so friendly and welcoming. Most people in Philippines speak English, so that is another plus. Philippines gets more than 4 million touristic visitors a year, but to think about it, I think 4 million isn’t enough, so maybe I will post more about Philippines in the future 🙂
Thank you for your sweet and encouraging comment. 🙂
Man, that dog stereotype, though. I thought that was for all Asians in general. I don’t really care about it because it’s not true. I really just make jokes about eating dogs.
Come on. Normaly no Philipino eats dog (There is that small Chinese minority). Chinese traditionaly eat dog, not only in China, but also Chinese minority in Thailand (A real Thai would NEVER touch dog) in Malaysia even in very progressive Singapore. But even in the Chinese comunities of the Philippines, few Chinee are used to eat dog. And to say Philippines is just like any other Asian country, is total nonsense.(and means that person has no idea about Philippines) Asia has many very different countries. One can not even compare neighbours like Thailand and Malaysia. There are great diferences already. And Philippines sticks out even more, compared to any other Asian country
Make me LAMO because you don’t know about Thai and Thailand yet you think you know it all. Not to talk about Chinese-Thai.
Like Gorge Bernard Shaw said: “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.”
No need to explain. I have seen more than enough it’s waste of time.
Asocena.
You nailed it sir.. i was just researching and typed in the keyword “Filipinos are loving ” and boom!! i came across your blog and you know what.. i did not finish my research on time cause i cant stop reading it as well as the comments .. Its just nice to know what other nationalities thinks about us .
hi sir! I really appreciate how you describe us Filipino’s spot on!, when i found this article i couldn’t help but be amused at all the facts that you had collected about Filipino’s.
I do agree with you about Filipino men being cheaters and well, yeah…but sometimes, just going to a province or a village in a city, makes you hit the jackpot! literally.
I’m just a teenager myself but don’t doubt about what i told you about the men issue coz I watched MMK as many times as I can.
Sir, I am truly amazed on how you accurately depicted those stereotypes, I have never heard nor seen a Filipino who has never eaten rice(I didn’t necessarily travel the whole Philippines). Though there are some facts you haven’t included but aren’t really stereotypes, like, the fact of us Filipinos believe almost everything(especially those within reason), ranging up to tarot cards, to aswangs/vampires, to tikbalangs residing in the home tree. We are so multicultural that a majority of Filipinos would most likely have heard, listened, and have been thought of more than 1, probably around 3, cultural superstitions, especially the provinces, almost(90%) every province has its own customs brought by ancestral clans that survive to modern day.
I dream of having a Filipina wife…but, I am an American woman and I have no idea how to meet a Filipina that would be interested in marrying me and moving to the US. I have tried the dating sites, but even when they say they are looking for female partners, it is usually a mistake, they didn’t mean it. Any suggestions?
Hi Pat, 🙂
I think you should visit Philippines, be a tourist for a few weeks or if you can afford it even for a few months. Enjoy your time there, experience a new way of life and interact with the people living there. Filipinas are very friendly and are usually very welcoming to foreigners so I am sure you will make many friends there (and if everything goes right, meet your future wife too).
Goodluck 🙂
huh?
you are an American woman and you want to find a filipina wife?
Hi. I’m from Malaysia. I just want to say that Malaysians LOOOOVE rice too, and yes,…we eat rice for breakfast as well – popular breakfast items are nasi lemak (rice cooked in coconut mik) and nasi goreng (fried rice).
I’ve never been to The Philippines but I do know that Filipinos are friendly and I hope to to there someday. 🙂
Hello. I’m Filipino girl.
Your blog mentioned about Filipino guys who are cheaters. Yes, that’s true. You also forgot to add up that Filipino guys are “bolero” those are guys who were sweet talking to a girl but they not really mean what they said. They just want to hook up with that certain gal.
And I could see that Filipino guys also has many girlfriends, they don’t like to buy things for their girlfriends too. Some of them are asking money to their girlfriend instead or telling to a girl “pay for my meal” just like that.
I didn’t said all Filipino guys are like this but most of them are.
In Filipino girls, yes that’s true we are the sweet one, the caring and wife material.
But there are also Filipino girls who are cheaters, and pretenders, and the mistress.
All in all, I could say that be careful to find a filipino guy/girl to love, because only few Filipinos are faithful.
I’m an English lady (retired now) who fell in love with a Filipino who is no longer with us. He was the most wonderful person I have ever known. It’s true that he was a compulsive gambler, and was rather lazy but it’s also true that he was polite, respectful, unselfish and very loving.
what do you mean he is no longer with you?? he is already dead??
Stumble upon your blog. Sorry, couldn’t control myself from expressing my brutal opinion.
Where do these girls come from? If these stereotypes do really exist I bet it’s common in the clubs/bars, mountains, small isolated islands, far flung provinces, and slum areas.
These girls certainly do not represent the educated, professional, middle class (at least in this status) Filipino girls. I know a lot of women who are married to foreigners. They’re friends from my alma mater, relatives and family friends who immigrated to different parts of the world. All of them are well-educated, earning, and decent. I had foreigner bfs too. Of course, I won’t settle for less. I prefer a man who went to top schools as well, earns more than I do, from a decent family, has independent and professional siblings, and most importantly, parents who are self-sufficient. I expect that whatever my family has, he has too.
There was never an unfaithful partner on both sides of my parents families (uncles and aunts), though I have two playboy cousins. My mom and my aunties are all productive, very independent, secured and strong-willed. On the other hand, my female friends are happily married, successful in their chosen fields, have acquired their own properties, have children who go to exclusive schools, and enjoy fancy life.
The male and female subjects in your blog, without exaggeration, are the kinds of Filipinos I only see on soap opera, movies and news.
I don’t want to sound snob or condescending, but to put it bluntly, an ‘ordinary’ foreigner should not expect to attract Filipino girls who have the same background like I’ve mentioned above. An educated Filipina is confident, tough, ambitious and discriminating. And for them to settle with a pensioner or even a young foreigner in a countryside is … unimaginable for me.
My observation of Filipino women is different from what you see and have experienced. Let’s put it this way, these stereotypes might be true on the girl’s social status and the kind of place the foreigner guy met them. Go to the bars and mountains, these you find.
Hi Nini,
Sorry for the late reply.
Your opinion is very welcome even it doesn’t agree with my observations.
How would you classify regular Filipina girls working in an environment such as UAE (Abu Dhabi or Dubai)? I am talking about well educated, middle class girls, who currently live and work in the UAE (just like the rest of us, non-Emirati) and who have spent at least the first two decades of their life in Philippines.
The stories I have heard from most of Filipina/ Filipino friends and acquaintances almost always followed the same pattern I have described in my post.
I do realize that the Filipino expatriate community might differ from a first or second generation (example) Filipino-Canadian because of the nationality-related salary discrimination in this region… but please keep in mind that much of my observations were based on my friends’ life prior to migrating to UAE.
Hope this clarifies my perspective
those who go to middle east are actually lower class filipinos…. they actually work in factory or domestic helpers… they are not well educated so they can’t find work in the philippines… so they go abroad….
Hi Toped,
Calling overseas Filipino workers lower class Filipinos is so unrespectful. If you will check the Diploma of each of the Filipinos’ you meet abroad, may it be a domestic helper or factory worker, you will mostly received a slap of Bachelor’s Degree certificates. More than 50% of overseas Filipino workers are College graduates (some college undergrad) so it is so unfair for you to say that they are not well educated. Just unfortunately the Local government cannot give enough employment for the growing rates of unemployment therefore a lot of Filipinos are taking risks and going abroad to work even if the offered job is not in line with their field of study. There are some who are high school graduate or high school undergrad but working their ass off and doing decent jobs.
However, I won’t deny the above article’s points. It is happening and is something Filipinos shouldn’t be proud of (negative side).
those college grads go to canada, europe or america… those who go to middle east as domestic helpers and factory workers are mostly the poor…
Toped, Most of the Filipinos that I have met in Dubai and Abu Dhabi are university graduates. They do come to UAE to find better job opportunities and not because they couldn’t find a job in the Philippines.
You seemed not to have a big knowledge of Filipinos when you are a Filipino. I know relatives and friends who graduated in universities that went to UAE after earning several years of experience here. They have lincenses and all. They have educated parents too. Calling them low class is very hypocritebof you. You must be rich in Philippines for saying that.
Writer you have forgotten to include Filipinos look down on Filipinos and very discriminating too
Hi Toped,
Try to check every Filipino you meet abroad may it be a factory worker or domestic helper and you will be slapped with Bachelor’s Degree diplomas. more than 50% of Filipino overseas workers are college graduate (some college undergraduate) and is working abroad because the employment rate in the Philippines is very low. Filipinos are ambitious and will take risks going abroad even accept a job not in line with their field of study to support their family. If that makes them lower class then you have a poor judgment. Yes there are some working abroad who are only high school graduate (some high school undergrad) but working their ass off with a decent job.
However, I cannot deny the author’s points above. ^_^
most of the stereotypes here are NOT even true… especially with Filipino men…. a little bit of research in GOOGLE will tell you STATISTICALLY, Filipina Women are more drunkard than filipin men…..
I would rather believe in statistics than in stereotypes… they usually are bias and unfair…
Google will give you facts but not the complete facts. You might say that you can see Filipinas’ in bars drinking and having night life than Filipinos. But you haven’t checked where the Filipinos (men) usually do their drinking session. You can say Filipinas drink once or twice a week but you don’t know that Filipinos(referring ton men) drink almost every other day at home. So, make your facts and statistics straight.
have you even check google and research it?? even the reputable “newspapers” in the Philippines have reported that Filipina women are more Drunkard than filipino men…. Statistics is Statistics…. either you accept the mathematical Statistics or not…. I would rather believe in Statistics than in some stereotypes…. most of the time stereotypes are a bunch of lies….
i can give you newspaper articles if you like… just to show you the statistics…
hi Toped! Not all data are available in Google just to let you know. I understand that there’s an existing stats conducted by an Independent body (but where was the survey conducted, who were surveyed?). That’s why i don’t believe the stats. ^_^ But i respect your opinion on this. I just cant stay mum though because I am from Philippines, been to almost all of its Islands. I worked with the Social Welfare government unit in a while. Though i cant deny the fact that the number of women consuming alcohol is getting higher everyday. (:
the independent body is a member of Philippine broadcasters association and media association in the Philippines… they have the duty to produce FACTS and Truthful well studied RESULTS, otherwise they will lose their integrity….
sometimes when you experience something you tend to generalize and make conclusions… that is why Statistics are better and reliable data…
The statistics that you are speaking about simply don’t exist, but here are some REAL statistics for you:
44 % of the Adult Filipino men are smokers vs 10 % of the Filipina women.
http://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SH.PRV.SMOK.MA
http://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SH.PRV.SMOK.FE
Please try to understand that I have nothing against Filipino men, I am simply stating my observations.
We are talking About DRINKING Alcohol.. being a smoker DOES not have very great harm…. there is more harm in drinking alcohol… from drunk driving to violence….
here is the statistics with a +/- 2% margin of error
Filipino female alcoholic beverage drinkers were at 54%
Filipino men = 48%
as Reported by
www(Dot)abs-cbnnews(Dot)com/lifestyle/10/22/12/more-filipino-females-drink-alcohol-males-survey
DRINKS ALCOHOL but not DRUNKARDS….
ANd DUH? The survey was conducted by ABS CBN? Surveys most of the time are not true….. They usually conduct it in cities using less number as their sampling….. SAMPLING… So they only chose a small number of a population.. Duh? Im a filipina living in the province…
I did nt understand this language mix. But even Pinoys have problems with it. In some parts of Manila towards the northern outscirts, a Pinay friend of mine was not able to find people she could understand.And she speaks three Filipine languages. Some are dialects. Others like Bicolano, Morro or Chabacano are separate languages. And its shifting. When I was the first time in Philippines in 1968 I was living between Cavite and Ternate. And EVERYBODY spoke Chavacano, in Cavite, Ternate and other places and areas there. Nobody used Tagalog. Most people did nt even understand it. Now ? Only old people speak Chavacano. And its Tagalog now for everybody. And in Cebu city,I found more people speaking Tagalog than Cebuano.
toped, you may be right. if that is the reason why sex is so permissive amongst Filipinos (both genders) because it is the men who want the woman to get dizzy with alcohol and give a hell of a good banging session.
anyways with at +/- 2% error margin, it is about 50/50 with the numbers being that close.
toped, you are so far from reality about filipino, having said that, it does mean that filipinas are saints.
however, in a much similar comparison, the filipino men are largely fun seekers, philanderers and downright lazy like their counterparts in thailand.
Thank you for your comments adorejenny 🙂
You are absolutely right, Calling Filipino Expatriates as “Lower class” is very offensive and certainly very far away from the truth. In fact, I know that many Filipino’s who come to Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Qatar… etc… spend a lot of money for their ticket, visa (even bribing corrupt airport security personnel at the airports), just to come for a chance to find jobs in this region. Why? not because they couldn’t find a job at their home country, but because they are ambitious, hardworking and brave.
Oh, did I mention that most of the Filipino expatriates in this region are females? why? You know why, because they are the ones supporting their family, not their bothers, not their husband and not their father.
Hey I writer don’t argue with this “TOPED” oh my gosh I didn’t know I would meet him here too. Pssst he hates white guys and he is disgusted with Filipinos marrying foreigners. I had a debate with him in one YouTube video you will never win against him. He believes in statics and newspapers and won’t ever believe you if you say you know better for you experienced them in real life.. oh my gosh! This guy is everywhere!.
I know its him base on the smartphones and internet comments.oh my gosh it’s gonna be ” human knowledge” because of the free internet donated by Mark Zuckerburg
I think this guy loves to pick a fight in the internet
Filipinos are awesome creature, they smiles a lot and have a great sense of humor, its true that some filipinos are uneducated but it doesn’t mean that they can’t work, they are hardworking too
illiterate for now… but there will be tremendous explosion of education and knowledge in the Philippines in a few years because 1) smart phones made in china are becoming cheaper and 2) Mark Zuckerburg made contracts with mobile companies to provide Free internet such as Facebook and Wikipedia… this is free internet forever…
Oh my god we meet again. You are probably my destiny and not my white boyfriend Haha Haha
You didn’t know wiki can be edited actually.
All this stereotypes are so real that’s amazing.
I married a filippina girl & when i listen stuffs like that about them, i was the first to react and protest , calling all the people with such speeches as racists.
Step by step i discovered the true nature of these people and i have to consider today all this stereotypes are the truth.
I was amazed when i dicovered the number of abandonnede child to the grand parents in the neighboroud. i was so surprised too when i discovered how hard earned money was spend in fiesta, barcada and useless shits (fashion without value, smartphones…)
and the food is so terrible there, fat, salty, full of carcinogenic industrial sauces… when it’s so easy in philippines to find nice vegges and delicious fresh fishs.
Unfortunately, day after day i have to deal with this mentality now
Thats true most foods are salty and oily but how come that in other country obesity has a higher rate?????? Foods produce, veggies and animals are somewhat altered by science…… So maybe…… :))))))
Not sure if it was said before, but Japanese eat rice for breakfast too. Their word for rice is in fact synonymous with meal!
🙂 I wouldn’t be surprised if most East, South East and South Asian Cultures “have rice for breakfast as well”.
It is true also, ( or at least in my opinion), that those three regions have the richest and tastiest food in the whole world.
I would nt say all of East, South East and South Asia have the richest and tastiest food. I would single out Thailand, Indonesia and – PARTS, not all – of India. Not only for the tastes alone, but also for the rich and wide variations of ingredients and dishes. I love Philippines. But compared to those three areas, Philippines lacks the variation. Even most Philippine typical food is oversalted and greasy – which is rare in many other Asian countries. The only part of Philippines, where I realy enjoyed the food was the Bicol provinces. But even there the variation of dishes is not wide spread. And about rice for breakfeast: I know many other countries, not only in Asia, but also in Latinamerica, Africa and Caribbean, where rice is found at the breakfeast table as well. I myself even prepare sometimes something with rice for breakfeast, and my children are used to that, even living in Europe most of their life..
hmmm interesting post. however i think it will be fair if we can try to understand or shall i say do a bit more research on why a particular race got these traits
character and Personality
Caring and loving,
– as a christian/catholic country it’s a must. the holy family is a role model for catholics. also, this is part of the core values of being a filipina. at an early age a girl must learn how to take care of a family, cook, clean, laundry… the likes.
On the flip side of the coin, you will always meet “the gold digger” Filipina GF.
– Definitely no. filipinas are still obsessed w/ the idea of “love against all odds” this is the reason why soap operas tick. so if you manage to get a filipina truly in love w/ you. you will have her come hell or high waters unless she feels neglected and got no choice but to give up.
perhaps there are some gold diggers -it happens if you found a girl who is stuck in a rut or from a very poor family who would love to help her relatives. (see above why). it is third world country you don’t have any idea of their hardships that caused them to be like that .
honestly money is not a huge thing when it comes to marriage for filipinos. they don’t even have dowry. they are generous they don’t have seconds thoughts to lend a few bucks to a friend in dire need.
Filipina girls are easy.
filipinas are friendly, passionate and in love w/ the idea of “love” but easy, NO,
– if yes then again look (above gold digger topic)
you can’t be a snob in philippines that is considered rude. back in old days in provinces.. a girl must dance even w/ a stranger in events like fiesta. else you will be tagged as rude.
foreigners might see it as flirting or being easy to talk to but for most filipinos it’s doesn’t mean anything ..
yeah they might giggle and guys immediately consider it as easy w/c…
– doesn’t mean anything at all if its from a highly educated filipino they are just being friendly that’s all.
– or perhaps because of the colonial mentality filipinos got w/c is deeply rooted into their race since they’ve been colonized for around 300 yrs by spain and got brainwashed.
try to observe more.. deeper.. compare how they act w a local guy or foreigner.
or better yet ask them directly and get a survey rather than just speculate or just post something that is just your own opinion.. doing that is called being responsible….think before you click 🙂
Hi Kd,
Thank you for your comment and for shedding light on the areas where you thought my analysis or observation was lacking. You have got some very valid points there, I agree with some of it, or even most of it, but I believe that you are seeing the glass half full only. When I said, ( you will always meet “the gold digger” Filipina GF), I didn’t mean to say that most Filipinas are gold diggers, In fact I believe that only a small percentage of them are. But again, all cultures and ethnic groups will have those who value love, and those who value money more.
I also haven’t mistaken “friendly” for “easy”, I can tell the difference :). I don’t like to go deeper into this one though for now.
lastly, Filipinos are one of my favorite people, they are delightful and very friendly, i might not be in awe of their productivity, creativity or efficiency, the same way I feel about Japanese, South Korea or German people, but I certainly do enjoy their way of life.
Thanks again for stopping by and for taking the time to add your thoughts,
🙂
i actually like tall girls. I am in the Philippines now. I came here from Brazil and Peru. Filipinas are ok but they still do not come close to Brazilian, Bolivians, or Peruvians. I cannot wait until I go back to Brazil next year.
nice post!
Remember, most men prefer women that are short over women that are tall! However, there are always exceptions. I think 4’11.5 is a nice height. I am quite a bit taller than that so it may be a case of “the grass is greener….”
you wrote
“Another common not so feminine form is having a narrow waist and broader shoulder.” I was wondering if this is a characteristic of most asian cultures or is it just a Filipina thing?
Also, have you traveled to all of these countries? If so that is AMAZING!
Keep up the nice posts!
Hi Grace,
:),
partially true!
like you said, there are always exceptions but in general, we, men are attracted to girls who are shorter than us (not necessarily short, just shorter than us), and women are attracted to taller men. Does this give Filipina women an advantage over other nationalities/ races who are, on average, taller? hmmm… I think it doesn’t.
So here is my general rule of thumb, :P,
Ideal Female Height = Ideal Male Height – The highest (craziest) high heels available in the market. 😀
Having said that, I, being 5’9, would probably be more attracted to a 5’6 than I would be attracted to a 4’11 girl. But I would be more attracted to a 4’11 than I would be attracted to a 6’1 girl 🙂
About the narrow waist and broader shoulders, to be honest, I haven’t noticed this characteristic in other Asian nationalities so far and I find it a bit unique to Filipina women.
Thank you for your comments, reading comments like yours makes me realize that every second I have invested in this blog is time well spent.
I have approved your other comment, I will reply to that one too soon 🙂
Hello, thanks for your comment! 🙂
Well, again, I have no idea where you are living! But here in the US 5’4.5 is the “average” height for White American women (according to Wikipedia).
Here I have seen many different types of couple! Usually the male is at least 2-3 inches taller, but I have seen about 3 couples where the woman is taller – very rare here (or at least where I live!). Like most women, I prefer my man to be at taller. For me 5-7 inches taller is about perfect!
Uhmm,, plss differentiate lowlander filipinos and filipinas from highlander,, its a big difference i think
:), can you tell me more about the differences between lowlander and highlander Filipinos? 🙂 To the rest of the world, you are one nation, one country; Yes, we know that there are many Islands in the Philippines, many dialects, richer cities, poorer cities… etc.. but I would like to hear more from you.
-_- uhhhhh! so bias! You stereotyped Filipino men the wrong way. Maybe most of your friends came from mainland (National Capital Region/central luzon), life is different there compare to the rest of the country. Remember, Philippines composes of 3 Regions (7,107 islands) with various cultures. You can’t stereotype the whole guys of the archipelago from what you’ve heard from mainland people. Us from rural and developing provinces don’t have such stereotypical dramas. Many of the families around my area are complete and happy. Fathers work hard and mothers take care of their children. I agree with some of comments here that many filipinas are horrible gold diggers and targeting rich foreign guys. Maybe they came from poor and desperate family.
BTW I’m from South-western part of the country, you can stereotype us being “nature-loving” people more than the rest of the country ^_^
haha. I am a Filipino. And I find this article 99% accurate 🙂
Well, I want to share some facts that might help others to understand Filipinos.
Philippines was colonized by Spaniards for over 300 years. Then American came. And the last invasion was that of Japanese during WWII.
Before that, the Philippines habitants were indigenous people of different ethnicity race and tribes: Malays, Indos, Chinese, Aetas, Negritoes, Mangyans, Tausugs, Igorots, Lumads, Tanobos, Bagobos, etc.
Filipinos have over 120-170 dialects. Yes. We do not speak only one dialect. This: includes: Tagalog, Ilocano, Kapampangan, Ifugaoeño, Visayan Cebuano, Ilonggo, Waray etc. Because of this, we communicate with each other generally in Tagalog and English.
That means we are multi culture as our country have more that 7 thousand islands, divided into different regions. And each regions have different dialects, culture and traditions.
So attitudes, behaviors, beliefs and the likes vary in different types.
Even on speaking Tagalog on Tagalog regions (e.g NCR, Laguna, Batangas, Cavite, Rizal, Bulacan) there are many accents and Tagalog terms that are not familiar/same with one another. Same goes to Ilocanos (Ilocos region, La Union, Pangasinan, Isabela) and Visayan (mind you when you say Visayan it also includes people who speak the same Cebuano based Visayan in Mindanao).
So what is this all about?
What I am trying to say, when you say “Filipino” it just not exactly refers to Filipinos in general or as whole.
Most of the, people have different distinction depends on which region they came from, because we do not have the same culture/practice/beliefs.
Filipinos from urban areas are reputed to be the usual “liberal” types. While people from rural areas are well known or expect to act the opposite. Sometimes they mix. But most of the time, people from rural places are more laid back than those who are in cities.
You can easily point it out.
Sample: A Filipino from Manila would call elders who are not related to them as “Mang” (men) and “Ale” (women). Same in Visayas as Dong and Inday (to any age).
While in province, they call elders as Auntie, Uncle, Manong or Manang even if those persons are not biologically related to them.
But their common denominator which make them both Filipinos is that they end their sentences with “po” when talking to elders.
Men and Women from different regions varies in different types when it comes to love and relationships.
Like this: (again this is just base on what most people from PH thinks of them) Ilocanos are known as sweet lovers. And very strict but loyal partners. Most families from this groups are conservatives. You hardly see broken families as they have close knit family circles. Same goes to igorots from Baguio City who speak Ilocano but differ to fellow Igorots who speak Ifugao. They do not allow divorce and annulment to married tribes. Same case to Cebuanos. But some see them as jealous type and have some strict sense of responsibility about parenting. And Ilonggos are known for being too sweet, laid back and considerate. Nueva Ecijans are reputed as too proud, noisy and clingy people. You might see them as flirt eventhough they dont. While Manileños are reputed as liberated, straight forward people, most failed relationships come from their area etc etc haha lol. The essence of this, is to understand their behavior base on their environment which have huge influence on them.
So if you want to distinguish which is which among Filipinos, learn to understand their background first.
Some are superstitious, some are reckless. Some are nice while some are rude.
But over all, Filipinos have respect what ever race/color/ethnicity you have/are. It is just that most positive and negative traits are undeniably inherited from our immigrant ancestors. Obviously. That makes us multi cultured crazy but sincere people. lol
Women with foreign blood trace are usually taller than average men in PH. In the PH, (I won’t rely on stats base on wiki,I’ll just say base on what I see since I live in PH and travel around over 20 yrs) well average men usually are between 5’3-5’7 in rural areas while 5’5-5’9 in urban areas. When I was in my teens, I was barely 14 and my height is only 5’1. I was considered small in Manila at that age. When I travel to provinces, they see me as a very tall girl for my age (14). Most girls on that age are between 4’7-5ft. Now I’m in my 20s and stand 5 ft. 5 inches and my height is considered tall in Manila. What about in provinces? They call me “higante” (giant) as average men in those area are as tall as I am. lol
If you are male and your height is 6ft and above, that’s how they see you as “golly giant” because Filipino men who reach that height is very rare.
Filipina(s) choose men who are taller than them because most Filipinas are taller than average Filipino men in some areas. I am as tall as my dad and I find this awkward. lol But I see some women who end up with men who are shorter than them.
Oh I forgot. Filipinos are fetish to people with pale/white skin. No wonder why most of us bleach our skins with glutha soaps haha. But some choose to stay the way they are. how they look.
And we admit being too maarte or choosy but delicate when it comes to foods. When we cook adobo, it is not the usual adobo that you see in one household. Adobo can be cooked in different ways from different regions. Maybe you should try that.
From an INTJ Filipina:
A very honest and detailed article. Keep it up! But I think the stereotype here refers to the Manila-born Filipinos. A Filipino from the provinces (regardless of gender) is more conservative, less materialistic, and more responsible about his family. You’ll love to meet these “probinsiyanos”. They’re generally easy-going and positive despite the hardships they’ve gone through in life.
Filipinos hate being alone. I am the only exception. Haha. People see me hanging out in cafes and in my house alone and happy, and this terrifies them to no end. They would even join me (even if I don’t want to, and even if they have other things to do) out of “sympathy”. I like this trait of ours, though. 🙂 It shows how much Filipinos care about others.
You should add to the Filipina stereotype how OBSESSED they are with selfies, and how deeply romantic and sentimental they are, defying logic for the sake of love. I had to remove some of my Facebook friends from my News Feed because they keep overloading it with selfies taken every 3 hours, and mushy love messages posted publicly on their boyfriends’ walls. Filipinas are also very charming, in my opinion. They can charm any guy to give in to their wishes (be it an iPhone or a shopping spree, haha).
Not all Filipino guys are libidinous playboys. It’s our macho culture that propagates this behavior. And I think it’s also because Filipino women are conditioned by society to make their husbands/boyfriends the center of their universe. Filipino men, like any man in the world, dislike being nagged and followed around. This prompts them to escape and fall unfortunately for another woman’s charms. But now, more Filipinas are learning to be happy in their own company by taking up hobbies and learning new things.
100% agree on the karaoke thing! Music runs in a Filipino’s veins. There’s a singer, guitarist, or pianist in every Filipino family. 🙂
“Filipinas are gold diggers.” I beg to disagree on that. Non-Filipino men who said that are those who only met the sluts and or the low key women. Highly-educated & career-oriented Filipinas spent much of their money when they are with their non-Filipino partners. I am a Filipina, my partner is a European. And, i have known a lot of Filipinas like me who have European partners. We have money of our own. We are in a relationship w/ them because we find them not very controlling compared to Filipino men.
I didn’t say that all Filipina girls are gold diggers, what I said is:
meaning that only some Filinas are gold diggers, which is normal in any society. I agree with you. Educated and career-oriented Filipinas are financially independent and are too proud to ask anything materialistic from anyone. In fact, I have heard of few stories (friends of friends of friends :P) where the Filipina GF was supporting the non-Filipino BF after a job loss (after the financial crisis in 2008-2009)… which is admirable.
I have to agree on this. Some Filipinas are gold diggers. read: SOME. Not all. lol. That’s something which is very common in any countries. They tend to manipulate their husbands, on money matters and even on decision making. Some are naggers. Again, these are common to a lot of women, not only Filipino women.
If majority of Filipino men have mistresses….. Then that makes Majority of Filipina women mistresses too…. It takes 2 to tango….
But not every mistresses aware they’re actually doing a ‘tango’
Eating rice for breakfast? Whats wrong with it? Filipinos believed that breakfast is the most important meal of the day.
Try to live as a filipino and you would know the real good and bad side. Try to look deeper.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with eating rice in the morning, it is just unusual for the rest of the world ( or least the rest of the non-Asian world).
For me, eating rice in the morning is like doing a very quick sprint run at 5 AM (after waking up at 4:55 AM) with no warm up at all… I ideally like to warm up, have 20 min of a jog, stretch and then possibly do a sprint :)… same goes for food, I like to have something light in the morning before jumping into a heavy meal like (rice with curry stuff) and similar food later during the day.
Eating rice for breakfast is common in Indonesia as well. I also found that it is a usual fare in the Philippines too for breakfast.
But in other countries, rice is more a staple fare for lunch and dinner. Perhaps when served a porridge it can pass for breakfast in such countries.
It is just a local tradition of what food is taken for breakfast I assume.
Can you do filipino-chinese??? I’ve lived my whole life in Cebu, Philippines and I feel out of place cause most FC’s aren’t thriving in this area but hidden away.
About the Filipino Chinese – they tend to segregate themselves away from the locals (Filipinos) and that is why they are as you mention, “hidden away”.
Awful loud neighbors. Screaming and shouting all the time. Never shut up. And they make their cars loud to wake up the neighbors. Horrific evil people.
Interesting article:-) I was about to send a link of this site to my British housemate…but now I hesitated…some of the comments are really offensive. Yes, I am a Filipina and I am proud of it. I’ve travelled a lot and saw some of these descriptions are found in other nationalities too.I think it is offensive to say that Filipinas are “easy”, because most of my friends are not easy on men. My closefriends and the people I hang out with are all single ladies. They are not ugly women. I consider myself attractive (so far according to my caucasian male friends and work mates :-)) but I couldn;t even find a suitable partner/bf. ha. So, it is not fair to call us all FIlipina women “easy”. 🙂
Pinays are easy ? I dont think so. Many Pinays are rather conservative. Of course: A foreigner who only meets girls in Angeles and surrounding area, will soon be convinced that all Pinays are easy. But thats what made Angeles, and most girls who try to make a living that way, moved to those areas, for whatever background reasons. But traveling on the outer islands, or the outer provinces, trying to chat up a local girl, one will be surprised, how hard it is to get intimate with a girl, if you are strange to them, never mind if foreigner or a Pinoy from another part of Philippines. What can be observed is, that a humble Pinay girl is rather used to be treated with little care by men/boys of their surrounding. But when some guy suttenly turns up and treads them nice and apears to be a honest gentleman, promissing this and that, and even marriage. Pinays easely trust, that they have hit the jackpot to have found such a rare species of a man and fall for him and try to hold on. Sadly often being dissapointed and used as playtoy for a limited time
I strongly disagree with “pinays being easy.” Maybe that’s true in the major cities but girls from the rural areas or countrysides are still very traditional and conservative.
Seems the author and most comments haven’t got a clue here, I married a Filipina and fact is there are big differences between, for example, an Ilocana, and a Visayan, and a bigger false impression when you look at the cheaper on line girls and the real people you meet there in towns and villages. One thing they have in common is from the American influence, they all talk loud and through/over the top of each other,
The characterisics here can also be for other nationalities…. What makes us filipinos somewhat different is we always smile and joke around even in serious situations.. Sometimes it’s annoying.. e.g trying to educate parents about their growing number of children then theyll joke about it… Grrrrrrrr….
The philippines has a 100 m population, more than 10 regions which comprises with provinces.. Each provinces has different cultures. We are raise differently. And yes Proverty has something to do with most of the negative attributes and other factors such as social media…..
Filipino men have mistresses??
Majority White men are Sex Tourists and pedophiles in Asia as reported by CNN and CBS and BBC news agencies……
Middle Eastern men abuse their women and marry them at age 9 as reported by so many news agencies….
Now who is Worse among men??
What a stupid statement that Majority of white men are sextourists or pedophiles. There are quite detailed statistics about such: Number one country of sex-trade is not a country populated by Europeans or their descendants. And its also not catering for Europeans. And in the list of the ten number one countries of sex trade and their customers are just three European countries. Most Hispanics and Latins are also white. And sex tourism and especialy pedophile behaviour is very low in those societies. Prostitution is as old as mankind, and can never be wiped out. And there is no conection to race or other ethnic basics. The only conection is to demand and availibilty of money.
” Majority of white men (who are in the Philippines) are sextourists or pedophiles”
That is absolutely true and you can refute it as a false but to no avail.
Apart from their Overseas Foreign Workers remittance, the other big source of Income is from the Flesh Trade that the Philippine Government and Law Enforcement look the other way and does nothing much to stem a lucrative though immoral industry.
Of course you re right, saying that most tourists who visit especialy Angeles City come as sex tourists, and especialy on Cebu many pederasts. But that not only includes so called WHITES, but also many Arabs and especialy Japanese. I dont consider those whites. (actualy as a tourguide in Cebu, I encountered a lot of pederast WOMEN as well, going after children of both sexes. Seems a big taboo to mention such a fact) But what I was writing against was the statement that only WHITE men and the majority of white men are sex tourists and pederasts. THAT is a ridiculous statement.
I have 2 Filipino women who are tenants. Actually they are squatters. They won’t pay the rent, the utilities and are evading eviction as much as possible! They lie, lie lie. Don’t they learn responsibility or obligation? You want them? Take them! They’re the worst tenants I have seen.
Let me add this: Filipinos are quickly creating their own idea of how things are and then just stick to it as if they can be sure their guess is true. Many times I hear stuff like: “Now that you are retired…” (I am 38 years old and I work!) “How long do you live-in with your girlfriend now? (Its my wife. I am married). “What state in the US are you from?” (I am from Europe) “Sir, just buy the house!” (Why they think I have enough money for it?).
Hahaha. That sounds more like this girl is writing to lots of people, and mixing them up.
A lot of Pinays do that, writing to hundreds of people same time, hoping Mr. Right turns out of such a big group. But its mostly harmless (compared to the Mafia stile way, Russians are scamming people) But its true: They imagine that all people in Europe and USA are very rich, and a few hundred dollars is just pocket money. Some of my Pinay friends like me, but consider me a kind of a freak, just because I dont own a car 😉
Oh my gosh! These are all true!! I should know, I’m a fillapina. Yasss rice with every meal! Rice is perfect for breakfast!! Bacon with tomato’s and rice!! (Breaks into a Jim Carrey moment) Yummy!
Too many Filipino women are prostitute….What a shame… and this cycle will never end unless Philippine government brings in move foreign investment and create better opportunities for employment.
Too many? How many?
That is a sweeping statement and lacking tact and decency.
Prostitution is and will be anywhere on the face of this Earth, even where it is punishable by death.
Prostitution is not cultural in the Philippines. In fact, in the Philippine culture prostitution is not an accepted social value.
Mr. Windy. I start geting the idea, that you hate the Philippines, and all Pinoys and Pinays. I love them. And I know their faults and attitutes. And I dont agree with all of it. But your negative list is overexagerated, and actualy applies more or less to all societies, not only to Philippines.
NOT ALL Pinays are prostitutes or even Golddiggers. Pinays do share with everybody in the family. And especialy when they are poor, they imagine, all foreigners are millionairs. So why not ask them to share a little bit of their wealth? Its also a kind of test, if they are stingy. Mostly they are contented with 20 or 25 dollars. And now are sure, you re a good guy and are ready to share. Not many exagerate and start to demand hundreds and thousands. I personaly have given those 20 or 25 dollars to a lot of Pinays (for nothing in return except a smile) And very very few asked for more. I have very bad experiences, compared to other parts of the world, for example Brazil, or parts of Africa. Where I consider the average of gold diggers far more in numbers, than in Philippines. Many Pinoys are unfaithfull husbands. I would say, there is a lot of truth in it. Its kind of historical. But its not caused by 400 years of Spanish colonisation. But its historical, since long before the Spaniards. Women in Philippines did not have much value, especialy because there were always many many more than men. 400 years of Spanish … superficial… colonisation, even Christianisation were not able to change that much. Only a few years ago, laws were made to give, theoreticaly, same rights to women in the Philippines. In other parts of the world, ruled by Spain, women were not treated like that, for example in Peru, that has an even longer and stronger Spanish history, women were always at least even, even they were dominant in society, just wars and fighting they left to the men.
But the point where I mostly dissagree with you, is the statement that all Pinoys are lazy.
This is a grave mistake. Pinoys say, there is a time to celebrate, and there is a time to work.
I have worked with Pinoys and Pinays on ships, and in the middle east and in the Philippines.
I found them very hard working and very serious and reliable, more so than members of other nationalities in direct competition. Many pinoys have tolerated working conditions, especialy on ships, no other ethnic group would accept, and for very little money. What is sure. Keep alcohol away from them. Many Pinoys dont know how to deal with that. A sign of that is, to observe them drinking. They dont enjoy their drink, they mostly just gulp it down quickly. never mind if its beer, wine or rum. The result is often enough a desaster. I myself feel helpless. When my friends get drunk, I walk away from them. But otherwise I apreciate the company and friendship of Pinoys and Pinays
Francis,
You said: Mr. Windy. I start geting the idea, that you hate the Philippines, and all Pinoys and Pinays.
I say: Prove to me where did I show that I hate the Philippines, all Pinoys and Pinays.
Your approach to public debate is pathetic.
Whatever I say about the Filipinos is from my hands-on experiences in the Philippines spanning more than 6 years, living there and comingling with the Filipinos. And I stand by my appraisal of who they are and what they do.
You are incapable of staying focussed on discussing the matter commented on but draw on other issues that are not connected and ramble on and on. That is also a ruse that Filipino succumb to when they lose confidence but try to sound that they know it all.
You have been spot on regarding many noticeable traits about the Filipinos (both genders).
I hope that Filipinos recognize them and do something about it because it is a deplorable culture borne from hundreds of years of colonial rule.
What is missing in your appraisal are the insidious intangibles about the mindset of the Filipinos that pervades their everyday behavior. Such as:
1. Jealousy in various forms.
2. Parasitic mentality
3. Hypocrisy
4. False pride
5. Mule headed
6. No pursuit for excellence
7. Laziness
8. Debt ridden
9. Uncontrollable gossip
10. Live beyond their means